We are trying to keep Caden up and let Carter go to sleep first, but that gets old quick because Caden needs to go to bed too! So we let them go in there together a few times, boy was that dumb...they never go to sleep! Last night it was so late and they were both so cranky and tired we didn't even try...to separate rooms they went. It was nice!
I am trying not to worry about it, but I would like it to happen instantly! Caden transitioned so well, but he was also around 26 months old. Carter isn't even 20 months old yet, so I know it will be harder, but I just wanted to vent! We really have several weeks to get it worked out, Cole won't get to come for at least 3 more weeks, then we keep them in our room for another 2 or so...
If you got this far...thanks for listening!
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I am NOT looking forward to this! Too bad we can't keep them "caged up" forever. I have a little more time than you do-and Rhett is a little older, so maybe it will go smoother for me. Sorry, I'm sure it is all very frustrating.
Trust me, its gets better. When we were going through this same nightmare I thought my life was over, of course being pregnant doesn't help anything. Just hang tough you will have success, eventually. Of course Max and Sam still get spankings a lot at night because they play together now instead of by themselves.
I'm really glad I read this, because I have been looking for a toddler bed for Allie. I was kind of thinking it would be too early, but after reading this I think I may wait a little longer. Maybe when they are closer to 2 it will be easier.
I know it is not funny NOW...but when Carter is older, you will see the humor in his middle-of-the-night play sessions. You are such a good mom and this will work itself out but not before he takes you to the brink of exhaustion or to your wits end. That seems to be the "bar" or "benchmark" for many things our little boys put us through.
This is definitely not always an easy transition...but I don't necessarily believe that calendar age has anything to do with a child's readiness--this is a big step for little ones, and each one will handle it differently.
Colin moved to a toddler bed at 14 months, and we never had one lick of problems. Cameron moved at just over 2, and that was more challenging because Colin was in the bed right next to/above him. But we set ground rules for being quiet and getting out of bed, and he transitioned pretty quickly. Ethan is almost 19 months and showing no signs (climbing out, etc.) of needing to be moved! So, we'll wait a little while longer on him and go from there!
Every child is different....and I do believe that consistency in disciplining for getting out of bed or for playing when they are supposed to be being quiet (in our house, that means spankings for disobedience) is soooo important.
He will get it, don't worry! Just stay consistent and try not to lose your marbles! *giggle*
Poor Kara, let me tell you I feel your pain! I remember blogging over this specific topic one year ago. It took us a while to get Coop to stay in his bed, but he also wouldn't stay in his crib so we couldn't just switch him when we were tired of spanking him for getting out of his big bed. It does get better, hopefully sooner than later for you!
Some kids are just easier than others. We tried moving Tate to his big boy bed when he was only 20 months old and it was not fun, and we still have problems with him getting out of bed and he's 5 years old. And we gave him ground rules and we followed with consistent discipline. It just does work for some kids. I say move Carter back to his baby bed and if he is not ready to move to a big boy bed when the baby comes, buy another baby bed! It will save you a lot of stress and energy. And he will be happier too.
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